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i totally have some stuff to say on this. u may think that what i'm going to say is pretty childish, or that's like a sec sch kid going through puberty. but i'm offering my own past experiences here. I know many of u all have this prob, n i don't. Okay, partly it HAS to do with your parents.

Fortunately for me, i do have very nice n understanding parents. They do want me to have my own freedom, and to have fun while i still can. My mum always tells her friends 'let them play laa, they still young loh. When they grow up they may never have the chance to anymore.'

I have been through the stage where i rebel, n my parents decided to give me the freedom that i deserve. Of cos i don't get it by rebelling, but then what i did was i let them know that if they don't give me what i want, i rebel even more.

Well, it worked for one of my friends. That day we were staying over at a friend's n it was only her 2nd time staying over at a friend's. The 1st time was bcos her parents knew her that friend very well. But the 2nd time her parents flared up over the phone n demanded that she returned home immediately. it was about 12+, when the mrt n bus services have all stopped. she of cos tried to argue with her parents that she was already 18, n she could take care of herself, n that her best friend was also there. She decided not to go home, n stayed there despite her parents' objections. When her parents called she refuse to answer, but she sent them a msg saying that she'll be staying there n will reach home by xx time e next day. Her parents of cos nagged at her when she went home, but she didn't really get a very bad scolding.

Of cos some people have to get like scolded and stuff many times b4 they get their freedom, but lucky for me i only had such an experience once. Kat i think, ur parents don't want u to set a bad example for ur sis. They are afraid that ur sis will come home even later than u in the future, which is usually the case, cos parents r more lax with the younger sibling. Of cos, i agree to wat gong said, showing that u have matured is 1 way of getting ur freedom. But i think its really up to ur parents. I mean, diff pple have diff type of parents. Some of them u need to sit down n talk about wat u want, some u just have to rebel against them.

Oh ya, sometimes its also good to let them know who u're with. So that they are more fang xin. n if they know the person is even better. like when i tell my mum i'm with moo, anything also can haha. lilu also right? our parents trust moo haha.

Sorry if my above suggestions are qite useless to u, hee. It did work for me. So kat n co. , be patiently la, ur parents can't control u forever. take care. till we meet again.